Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Benefits of Strap-on Sex


 
Pegging can open up a whole new world of erotic exploration for couples. In addition to the pleasure of anal sex and prostate stimulation, pegging can take your sex life to the next level with hands-free penetration, diverse position possibilities, and even fantasy role play. 

Anal sex expert Tristan Taormino sheds light on this often misunderstood, yet incredibly sensual activity for couples in her legendary anal sex workshop; watch as she guides you step by step with tips and techniques for safe and pleasurable anal sex. 

You`ll Learn About: - anal and prostate anatomy - top quality anal sex toys and lubes - the best strap-on dildos and harnesses - skills for wielding a strap-on - different positions for pegging - simultaneous pleasure and penetration for her and him Whether you are a backdoor beginner or a pegging fan, explore the ins and outs of this intimate form of sexual pleasure and discover how you can add it to your sexual repertoire!

The act of pegging can be enjoyable for both partners: men may find stimulation of the anus, rectum, and adjacent organs, and particularly the prostate, enjoyable, provided that enough lubricant is used.

Women may get direct stimulation from the dildo, from its base, from an anal "butt plug", or in the case of a form of double-ended dildo, from vaginal penetration on the other end. 

There are plenty of reasons to incorporate strap-on sex into your play. All couples can benefit from the shared experience of penetrating one another. It can even the power-playing field too, by increasing the control of the depth and speed of penetration. This can be especially great for women who have never penetrated their male partners. And most men are open to the experience. Who wouldn't love to relax and have a prostate orgasm handed to them?

Basically, strap-on sex simply involves a dildo that is worn in a harness that fits snuggly over your hips. When women wear a strap-on the base of the dildo fits directly over the vulva. When men use one it fits right below his penis - actually creating two penises with which to play (the more the merrier). Strap-on harnesses can be designed for one or both of these scenarios. 

Strap-ons allow your hands to roam free to focus on other areas of the body. Men get a bonus by enjoying experimentation with a different size penis from their own. It allows them to double penetrate their female partner both anally and vaginally. Men with erection difficulties (and their partners) find that strap-ons can help to compensate by creating a whole new option in sex play. 


Choosing a Harness

When choosing a harness, comfort is everything. Many come in "one size fits all" adjustable elastic. Some have straps, buckles or D-rings. If you are larger or smaller than the average person, you'll want to clarify the size limitations before buying. If you aren't buying your harness and dildo together as a kit be sure that the dildo you're planning to use with your harness actually fits within the O-ring. Some harnesses allow for penetration of both partners simultaneously. 

Double Trouble: Give it and get it equally with this great dildo harness for both men and women. Waist and leg straps adjust with D-rings, offering a wide range of fit and adjustment. Guys: The original idea behind this harness was to create a strap-on that men could wear comfortably. The opening allows a man to position a dildo above his own penis and testicles, allowing for single or double penetration of a partner. Gals: the strategic opening leaves the vulva accessible and will work with some double dildos. click here !



A Buyer's Guide To Choosing Your Strap-on Harness ! . . . .

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There are so many makers of strap-on harnesses and dildo's that it truly can be very confusing when you decide to buy a strap-on harness.

Just view our carousel slideshow of strap-on harnesses and accessories and it really will make you dizzy and confused watching the list of products and new ones are coming out everyday. We do like our sex !
If you are a newbie to strap-on sex and are looking for your first strap-on I would recommend shopping for quality versus shopping for inexpensive.

Are you into looking good while you play? Do you like the feel of leather or the comfort and velvet closeness of spandex? Enough let's get you fitted.

Remember you get what you pay for and you will find that some purchases you make based on price just are not worth the headaches of not being pleased with your purchase.

Sizing

First of all, it's important to know how harnesses are sized. Most harnesses will list a maximum waist size, but be mindful that you may desire to wear it lower down on your body, so the sizing numbers should be taken into consideration.

If you're larger, especially if you have a bit of a belly, you may want to actually move your harness up a bit so that the business end of it - the place where the dildo is attached to it - is seated higher and will be better located for your pushing pleasure. 

Some people, particularly the more slender among us, also find that they end up feeling a bit bruised if the harness is centered on their pubic bone - moving it up, or putting a folded handkerchief or other pad behind it as additional cushioning can help tremendously with your comfort. 

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Example: Let's look at the spareparts joque harness at eden fantasy - click here ! Now let's visit Amazon to search for the spareparts joque harness - click here !  
Now let's compare:

Materials

Harnesses are made from several different materials: leather, nylon webbing, polypropylene, fabric, and latex are among the most popular (though that is by no means a complete list). 

Latex is the most challenging to use - it relies on a good fit, gets overly sweaty underneath, and can cause an allergic reaction if you or your partners are latex-sensitive. Latex harnesses should be cared for the same way as latex clothing - wash it with cool water and a very gentle soap, then powder it lightly with cornstarch before storing it (and don't store it with latex of other colors - they will transfer to each other and ruin its appearance). You can always shine up the latex with a dab of silicone lube before you use it, especially if your partner is of the ‘oooh, shiny!’ variety. 

Leather is usually the sturdiest, but as it's not as easy to clean as throwing it in the washing machine. Leather requires a bit more care (and if well taken care of, it can literally last you for decades). It's pretty simple, though - get some saddle or glycerine soap and water, rub it up into a lather, and apply it to the leather; then wipe it back off with a slightly damp cloth. You can condition it with a bit of mink or neatsfoot oil, but you shouldn't need to if you're using saddle soap, which cleans and conditions. 

Nylon webbing, fabric, and polypropylene are great budget- and eco-conscious choices, but often don't hold up well to rough usage. The nice thing about them is that they're all either hand or machine-washable in mild soap and cold water (but skip the dryer - and please, no fabric softener, as there are just some things in life that don't need to be downy soft!). 

Each person has a different set of requirements, so it's important to think about what kind of use your harness will be tasked with before purchasing. While materials are far more important from a safety perspective when it comes to insertables, you'll want to pay some attention to what your harness is made of - and make sure that it's not going to give you an allergic reaction which will leave you itching for less, rather than more! 

Each harness configuration has its own pluses and minuses. Let's take a look at the basic styles below.


Double Strap
The first kind of harness we'll look at is called a Double Strap harness also known as a jock-strap harness, as it has straps that go underneath the curves of your ass to help hold it in place and give the dildo the most stability possible (not to mention, jock-straps make everyone's ass look great!). 

The Latigo Leather harness is what one would often think of as a classic two-strap harness - three straps (one around the waist, and one around each thigh) that join in the front at the O-ring, which holds the dildo in place. This leather harness has a great size range - it fits up to 60" hips - and while it comes with a 1-1/2" O ring attached, you can change it out for a ring that more closely fits the dildo you want to use. 

If you don't like leather, Aslan's vegan (vegan = faux-leather with no animal products used in its making)Jaguar Jock is a great option. With a lower point of attachment, you can get more direct clit stimulation or use it as a harness for an internal dildo (like the Feeldoe or the Share dildos) to give them more stability. It's also perfect for packing, as is the SpareParts Joque harness, which is one of the sexiest packing harnesses ever (and is waterproof as well as washable, giving you more options for use and care). 

If you're larger, and concerned about getting a good fit, take a look at the new Sedeux Divine Diva harness - with a hip measurement of up to 82", supreme washability, and an easy-to-adjust configuration, you can get a great harness that fits you snugly and works fantastically!

G-String
The next harness type is the G-String or T-harness. These are usually constructed with one strap around the waist, and one (or two) straps that hold the dildo in place and then slip between your legs and up between your cheeks, much like a thong.They aren't good choices for people who have penises and balls to maneuver around, or who don't like the feel of things between their cheeks; however, the g-string is a comfortable and familiar shape for many women, and it's definitely got some serious sex appeal! 

One of the most versatile G-String harnesses is the Black Cat G Harness. Its sturdy construction means that it gives you more stability than others of its type, so you can use it a bit more vigorously and get better results for your work. It's also got the classic “leather and studs” look, which offers an added visual perk. It's made of vinyl, making it waterproof and exceptionally easy to clean, and its rear strap is 3/4", so it's less likely to bind up and become uncomfortable (and it can be used to keep dildos or butt plugs inside the wearer from slipping out as well). Vinyl isn't the most healthy material for sex toys that get inserted - but for a strap on harness, it's just dandy! 

Want something a little sexier and barely there? Try the Bare As You Dare harness, or the Brazilian harness!Both of these harnesses are extremely affordable and even sexier than most every other harness we can think of; their very simple lines work great if you're wanting to wear your harness under clothing (either with a cock in place or without). A word of caution though - if you've got a larger body and you want to use your harness for actual thrusting, these aren't going to be your best choices, as the minimalist g-strings work best on smaller to average-sized bodies. However, if your thing is simply wearing a cock or having it sucked; these are far better choices for you!

Panty Harness
Panty harnesses are also available, and are ideal for those of you that want a little more coverage. Unfortunately, many of them are made with latex (as the fit can be challenging), or are only set up for one particular dildo (or can only be used with a particular size or type). However, there are a few good options out there. 

The Leather Crotchless Strap On with Dildo is one of them; its comfortable leather construction fits like a glove, and it's crotchless to allow access to the wearer's fun parts (and will work great for guys who want to strap one on above their own equipment, too). I would suggest ditching the dildo, or at the very least covering it - the material it's made from isn't the best, but you can easily swap out any other 1 3/4" diameter dildo, making it perfect for using with all your favorites. Personally, I also like the Girl Shorts harness; these have a really sexy boy-shorts shaping that - trust me - looks good on almost every body shape, and also allows you to have a bit more coverage (excellent if you're a bit shy about how you look with a harness on). 

I also love the more butch appearance of these - they're a good option for someone who wants to feel a bit more masculine while they're screwing! Its interchangeable cock ring will fit up to a two-inch diameter dildo, so you can use your entire collection with this one harness. They do come with a more limited size range, so be sure to check out the measurements before buying.

Sets & Locking Dildo Systems
Looking for a set? Simple! Just find your preferred harness style, and look for one that comes pre-packaged with a quality dildo. We highly recommend the Bend Over Beginner harness set for you first-timers (especially if you're shooting for anal sex in particular). 

It has a removable vibrator so you can be as distracted as you want, and comes with two very high-quality silicone dildos in smaller sizes to give you some room for experimentation. 

The Flame and Heart harnesses are the next step up - a larger dildo, but very attractive, feminine styling make these two a winner. The Flame is made of velvet (similar to the Bend Over Beginner harness) and can be hand-washed in the sink; the Heart harness can be likewise hand-washed, and has a shiny surface to keep it from absorbing lube, making it even spiffier! 

If you'd prefer something a bit more panty-like, the Bikini Harness and dong are fantastic, as well. It's easy to clean (throw it in the washer) and its accompanying silicone dildo will last for years. Also, keep in mind that all of these can hold other dildos, making your purchase a more long-term investment rather than something that you can only use with one person or in one particular way. 

Locking dildo systems are not as popular as other styles, but they definitely have their fans. This system features a harness which is specifically configured with a base that locks a dildo into it, enabling a very sturdy connection with a minimum of fuss. 

The main brands are the Vac-U-Lock system and the Powerlock system; a variety of manufacturers make harnesses with these bases. Unfortunately, there is a dearth of higher-quality material dildos currently available for these systems; I am hopeful that in the years to come, more and more people will take advantage of this un-tapped (no pun intended) market and make some great silicone dongs for these harnesses! 

We're fortunate that there are a few fun choices that are safer for the body, though - one of my favorites is the Penthouse Powerlock Harness, coupled with the CyberSilicone Powerlock Cock & Balls. They're purchased separately, but together they offer a fantastic combo - a sturdy, panty-type harness that will offer lots of support for your fucking, and a silicone-composite dildo with great ribs and balls for lots of extra stimulation. 

The silicone-composite dildo shouldn't be used with silicone lubes, naturally; and it has a bit of an odor to it (most composites have a plastic-y smell to them) but as far as what's out there, this is one of the safest.

Non-Strap-Ons
Want the ability to strap one on, but not around your hips? Do we have options for you! These are perfect for folks who want to pleasure their partner in non-traditional ways, involve a little role-play, or who have challenges with physical ability in their lower bodies. Who says you can't fuck someone (or get ridden) unless it looks ‘authentic’? Bah! 

Isn't it hot when you have a sexy partner riding your thigh, craving something more? I have two words for you - thigh harnesses. You can have your lover lower themselves onto the cock and help them get off while they grind themselves into a frenzy - or, stand next to a bed or table and use your thigh-attached dildo to fuck them in a more traditional way. 

The Thigh Harness from Sportsheets is a great option for this – it’s budget friendly, fabric and Velcro (for easy cleaning), and incredibly sturdy - so it'll dish out everything that they can possibly take. Just one thing - there is no ability to change the dildo size beyond the 1-1/4" diameter opening, so if you like to use larger ones, you'll want to look at The Fix Thigh Harness

The Fix is a very hot-looking leather thigh harness - it'll go great on your bare skin, but will look amazingly sexy over your Levi's, too! It has a 2" ring to hold the dildo, but it's changeable with other cock rings so you can get the perfect fit for your favorites. It's leather, so it'll last a lifetime if you clean it after each use and condition it with mink or neatsfoot oil every few months. Not to mention - it's leather. And if you like leather, that's all that needs to be said. 

Like the idea of your partner on your chest, working themselves into a furor? Try the Chest Harness and dido set. Its nylon strap construction is simple to get on and adjust; it doesn't constrict your chest and hamper your movements or breathing; and as a bonus, it's easy to take care of. It comes with a high-quality silicone dildo, but of course you can use your favorites with it (though this is one of the best all-around use dildos that we've seen to come as part of a set). 

You can give your partner a hand with the Palm Harness, too! This allows you to hold the base of the dildo securely in the palm of your hand, which lets you use your arm muscles for thrusting (either vigorously or very gently) and frees up your fingers for working other holes, stroking the skin, slipping into the delicate creases of your partner's body, or stimulating their clit or perineum. You can also get some extra freedom (if we can call it that) to use your hands with the Chin Up Harness, which covers your mouth and chin and uses them as a base for the dildo. 

This is perfect for people who enjoy the idea of their partner smothering them with their ass or pussy (safely and consensually, mind you!), yet doesn't restrict breathing at all. Additionally, many people who like teasing love chin harnesses - you can get an up-close and personal view of your partner's body!

How To Tips for Pegging

How to Tips for Pegging
Pegging: When a straight woman penetrates her straight man using a strapon dildo. Having your wife/gf use a strap on with you is just fun in the bedroom. 

Pegging, also called “bend over boyfriend” or BOB, may not be everyone’s cup of tea. But for couples who have a foundation of good communication and are looking for a new avenue to explore, pegging offers a new world of stimulation for him and a wonderful opportunity for role play and power exchange for both partners. There’s no one way to peg as long as you follow the basics of safe anal play. But if you’re looking for a place to start, this step-by-step may help.

Time Required: Pegging requires a significant time investment up front and tends to be a slower form of sex play.


Here’s How:

Talk first.

Anal penetration of any kind requires a lot of communication. You can have perfectly safe anal penetration without any pain just so long as you listen to your body and if you’re feeling pain or discomfort you slow down, add more lube, and try a different position or form of stimulation. All this means you need to be able to talk first. If you can’t talk about the idea of pegging you’re probably not ready to peg (or at least not ready to peg safely). Tips on how to talk about new sexual ideas with a partner.

Get comfortable with anal penetration.

If you’re a man looking to get pegged it may not be the best idea to make that your first experience with anal penetration. Start on your own. Before you invest in toys and gear, just start off with your own fingers (be sure to use lots of water based lubricant and latex or non-latex gloves). You may want to experiment with self-prostate massage and see how it feels and whether you like it or not. Exploring on your own will also make you a better receptive partner.

Get to know his anatomy.

If you’re the female partner make sure you not only understand the basics of safe anal play but also are familiar with male sexual anatomy (particularly the anus and the prostate gland). In fact this is a good place to start for both couples - learn more - click here !



A great way to get a crash course on what he likes is to ask him to pleasure himself and let you watch. Not everyone is comfortable with this and one way to reduce self-consciousness is to have him wear a blindfold. This makes it easier for him to slip into his imagination and you can feel free to get as up-close as you like.

Get your gear.

Finding a good quality strap-on and the right dildo is key to a positive pegging experience. The female partner should choose the strap-on. There are several things to consider in choosing the right strap on dildo harness. Just as important is finding a dildo that’s the right size and shape. There are some specific things you need to look for in a dildo for pegging. Click here - Buying Your first strap-on for pegging. In addition to a dildo and strap-on, make sure you have plenty of water-based lubricant on hand as well as gloves and, depending on your dildo material, some condoms. Here is a great source from Dr. Ruthie - click here !

Try it out solo.

Pegging offers the potential for intense role play and gender bending experiences, and many people are surprised by how much they are turned on by the feeling and how “real” it feels. Still for most people the first time they try a strap-on on, it feels awkward and strange. Once you’ve got your gear try it on by yourself. Try it on under your clothing and see what it feels like to undress with your strap-on. Try moving around, dancing, even masturbate all with your strap-on in place. This will help you get used to the feeling and learn how your movements make the dildo move. A lot of women state, wearing a dildo is empowering.

Don’t stampede to the pegging.

Anal penetration can never be rushed so if you’re planning on some pegging, schedule in a lot of warm up time. Read more on anal play & preparation. Make sure your both really turned on, relaxed, and ready. Some couples will start with penile-vaginal intercourse and then switch to pegging. There’s no one way to do it, just be aware that it’s not like porn.

Let him take it in.

Once you’ve explored the outside of his anus and got him ready gently put the tip of the dildo up against the anus. Don’t try to push it or force it in, instead let him relax and take the dildo in. Once the dildo is inside him avoid fast movements at first, pay attention to the movements of his body and move with him. The dildo may slip out but don’t pull it out quickly (unless he asks).

Don’t forget to add the lube.

Keep a bottle of lubricant handy and be sure to keep adding more lube to the dildo as your playing. If the dildo is partially inside him you can apply lube to the part that isn’t, and as your playing, when the dildo is fully out of his body, apply more to the tip and the entire shaft.


Let him set the pace.

One way of letting him determine the speed of strokes and the depth that he likes is to get him to move and, at first, you stay relatively still. If your brand new to pegging this is a safe way to start and it gives you time to watch how he moves on the dildo and what he likes. Remind him that he can always go slower or faster all he has to do is ask.

Follow his lead, but start slow and shallow.

This doesn’t mean you’re off the hook. Once he’s comfortable with the dildo it’s time to start taking control. Begin with slow and shallow penetration. Here’s where having a smaller dildo can really be a benefit as it means you don’t have to worry as much about going too far. As you both get into it and are more comfortable you can experiment with deeper thrusting, but pay attention both to what he says and what his body is telling you.

Don’t forget about the other body parts.

The focus of pegging may be on the bum, but it’s still sex play and if you can bring in other parts of his body, all the better. Depending on your position you may be able to rub his back or legs, you may be able to give him a handjob at the same time. Be aware that many men lose their erections when they are penetrated anally but this doesn’t mean they aren’t turned on or that they don’t want to be touched more. In terms of the kind of touch, experiment with everything from rubbing and massage to running your fingernails along his skin to slapping.

Experiment with different positions.

Despite the long association of the rear-entry position with anal sex there are many sex positions that work equally well for anal sex or pegging. Each position has its benefits and drawbacks, so let your physical comfort be your guide, but try out a few different ones to see which positions give you the flexibility to move how you want.

Tips:

For more “spontaneous” pegging you can let him know in advance that it’s his job to get ready. (Anal Preparation) If he plays by himself first with toys he’ll be more relaxed and his body will respond faster and be able to take in more in a shorter time.

If you’d like to see a pegging video I highly recommend Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide To Anal Pleasure For Men. If you’re more of a reader, check out the Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-On Sex.

How to Use Strap On Sex Toys

Mention strap-on harnesses fitted with dildos and most people think of girl-on-girl scenes in porn videos where the actress wearing the harness plays at being a man, revels in having a pretend penis and uses it enthusiastically to have intercourse with the other actress.

But strap-ons are definitely not just for "lesbian" porn -- nor is it just about women playing at being men. Many heterosexuals enjoy strap-on play, as do some gay male couples. Strap-on sex can be fun for everyone. With just a little erotic imagination, strap-ons can add novelty, excitement, playfulness and even deeper intimacy to any couple's sexual repertoire.

What Is a Strap-On?
A strap-on is a sex-toy combo that includes a dildo attached to a harness that is worn around the waist or hips. The harness has a triangular or rectangular front piece that sits over a woman's vulva or the base of a man's penis, and the front piece has a special opening or O-ring through which you can slip a special dildo with a flared, flat-bottom base. This gives women an artificial penis right where one should hang, or, in the case of men, provides an extra penis right below his own.

Some strap-ons can be worn by either men or women -- for example, the Latigo Leather Harness. Others, such as the Luxury Harness Collection, are designed with women in mind and incorporate a removable vaginal plug -- as well as an anal plug for either sex -- on the inside of the harness.

Why Strap-Ons Are a Turn-On
Why fuss with a harness? Most dildo users just use a regular dildo and guide it by hand. But strap-on sex offers a different experience, one that produces a unique erotic connection for the couple.
·                   Strap-ons free the hands, allowing them to be used to touch in all sorts of other sensual ways.
·                   Strap-ons allow you to use your hips and therefore have greater leverage, providing for a more intense experience.
·                   Strap-ons invite gender-bending. Women can play at being men, thrusting their hips during intercourse the way men do.
·                   Strap-ons allow men to play at having two erections simultaneously. Some men enjoy using strap-on dildos that are noticeably larger or smaller than their own erections. In addition, having two penises opens the possibility of double penetration, both vaginal and anal at the same time.
·                   Strap-ons can help compensate for erection problems. If a man has erectile dysfunction, a strap-on can provide a mutually satisfying way for the couple to experience penile-vaginal intercourse.
·                   For those who enjoy lingerie or "dressing up," strap-on harnesses provide a unique visual treat that many lovers find exciting.
·                   The feel of wearing a harness can provide unique erotic sensations even without the dildo. Some women enjoy wearing harnesses alone under their clothing to raise the erotic temperature.
·                   Finally, strap-ons can deepen couple intimacy. Many couples don't talk much about their sex lives; they just do it. Because strap-on sex encourages sexual experimentation, couples need to discuss how they want to enjoy these new possibilities. This encourages partners to communicate more openly about sex, which can enhance intimacy and be highly arousing.
Beyond the Myths: Who Uses Strap-Ons?
Strap-ons are not just for lesbians. Unfortunately, some curious couples feel reluctant to experiment because of the myths that persist regarding harness-and-dildo play:

Myth: A man who enjoys being anally penetrated is gay.

Truth: Not at all. Some gay men enjoy recipient anal intercourse; others don't. Gay men also enjoy holding hands, kissing, massage, genital fondling and oral sex, and heterosexual men don't shrink from these erotic activities. Sexual orientation -- straight, gay or bisexual -- has nothing to do with the kinds of sex acts you enjoy. Many men who are 100% heterosexual enjoy having their anus massaged, fingered and penetrated -- including penetration with strap-ons. Heterosexual men who enjoy recipient strap-on play are not secretly gay; they are heterosexual men who enjoy adventurous sex.

Myth: A man who enjoys being anally penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on is abnormally submissive.

Truth: Being on the receiving end of strap-on sex is not fundamentally different from being the recipient of any other erotic activity. Strap-on play is not something the harness-wearer imposes on the recipient. A hallmark of good sex -- including strap-on sex -- is mutual consent. Couples may play at domination and submission, but that's all it is: play. Quite frequently, the recipient is the one in charge, directing the strap-on wearer to provide the erotic contact he or she craves. In other words, the strap-on wearer is not necessarily dominant, nor the recipient necessarily submissive. That's possible, of course, but it's only one of several possibilities. Couples interested in strap-on sex should discuss how they want to go about it and then play in ways they find mutually satisfying.

Myth: Women who penetrate men anally with strap-ons secretly want to be men.

Truth: Nonsense. Wearing and using strap-ons carries no deep psychological implications for women or men. For most women using strap-ons also carries no gender implications. Many women experience wearing a harness as a type of lingerie, something that makes them look and feel sexy -- with the added bonus that the harness also opens up other erotic possibilities.

Hitching Up: Everything You Need to Know About Harnesses
There are two basic styles: thongs and jocks. Each has advantages and disadvantages.

In thong-style harnesses, one strap circles the waist or hips and the other strap connects to the base of the front piece then runs between the wearer's legs, up through the butt cheeks (like a thong), attaching to the waist/hip strap in back.

In jock-style harnesses, one strap encircles the waist or hips and attaches to the front piece. Two other straps attach to the base or sides of the front piece and circle each of the wearer's thighs, attaching to the waist/hip strap in back.

Here are some things to consider when choosing which style you prefer:
·                   When it comes to appearance, it’s simply a matter of taste. Some people think thong-style is sexier, while others prefer the jock-style.
·                   Thong harnesses have fewer straps than jock-style harnesses, which means fewer strap adjustments. But the extra strap of the jock-style harness provides extra support for the dildo.
·                   On thongs, the strap that runs between the wearer's legs provides genital and anal stimulation. In fact, some women enjoy wearing thong-style harnesses under their clothing without the dildo because of the discreet clitoral stimulation these harnesses can provide.
·                   The strap that runs between the legs on the thong-style makes the anus, clitoris, vulva and vagina somewhat less accessible. With the jock-style, the wearer's anus and genitals are left exposed.
Another thing you’ll want to consider is the material of the harness straps. Each has a different feel. Possibilities include nylon, leather (Luxury Harness Collection) and even soft PVC. Nylon can be popped into a washing machine, as long as you remove any non-nylon parts, such as the front pad, while PVC can be wiped off with a damp cloth. And although leather requires more care, some people prefer its look and feel.

Wearing Your Harness
No matter which style you prefer, harnesses come in "one size fits most." Some have elastic straps that need no adjustments, while others have straps that are adjustable with either buckles or backpack-style D-rings.

To put on a harness, simply slip the dildo into the O-ring, step into the harness and adjust the straps for a comfortable but snug fit. If, after adjusting, there’s a lot of excess strap, you can always trim it down. With nylon straps, singe the ends carefully with a lighted match to prevent fraying.

Fitting Your Harness with the Right Dildo(s)
Harnesses are typically marketed in kits that include dildos designed to fit their front piece opening or O-ring. However, you might also like to add one or more extra dildos. Some considerations:
·                   A strap-on dildo should have a flared base that’s flat on the bottom. The flared base helps hold the dildo snugly in the front piece so it won’t slip out, while the flat bottom provides support as the harness-wearer thrusts with the hips.
·                   Some strap-on dildos stick straight out. Others curve. Curved models provide more variety. Depending how they are positioned in the front piece, they can curve up, down or to the side. Each position provides different erotic stimulation.
·                   Dildo firmness varies somewhat. Some people prefer very flexible dildos, while others prefer firmer models. Jelly dildos are the most flexible.
Tips for Strap-On Enjoyment
·                   Strap-ons are more elaborate than your average sex toys, and stepping into one may feel odd. Take your time. The dildo needs to be fitted into the front piece and straps may need to be adjusted. Be patient with these toys, with yourself and with your sex partner. At first you may feel awkward.
·                   Always use plenty of lubricant with strap-ons. Your dildo -- as well as any body part you’re planning to use it on -- should be generously lubricated before insertion. Experiment to see which one best complements your strap-on play.
·                   At first, the wearer should refrain from thrusting, allowing the recipient to slowly engulf the strap-on dildo instead of being penetrated. The rear-entry (doggie style) position is a good one to use.
·                   Strap-on harnesses allow the wearer's hands to remain free during erotic coupling. Use your hands in other places.
·                   Some couples like to explore simulated fellatio in which the recipient sucks on the dildo. If the dildo has been inserted anally, it should be thoroughly washed with soap and water and/or a sex toy cleaner before it enters the recipient's mouth.
·                   If a man wears the harness, he might alternate inserting his erection and the strap-on dildo into his partner.
·                   If a man wears the harness and the woman is open to double penetration, the man can insert his penis and strap-on dildo simultaneously into her vagina and anus.
·                   When women wear the harness, the front piece typically covers the clitoris. Some women enjoy the clitoral stimulation that results when the base of the dildo presses the front piece against it. Others miss direct clitoral stimulation. If so, reach under the front piece to fondle her clitoris. Or loosen the straps and lift the front piece or move it aside to allow access to her clitoris.
If you’ve read this far, you certainly might want to give strap-ons a try, as they can add a whole new dimension to your regular sexual routine. And remember: strap-on sex doesn't mean exclusively strap-on sex. Most couples who own strap-ons don't use them every time they have sex, but rather from time to time when they're in the mood. However you decide to use them, just be sure to keep an open mind, use plenty of lube -- and enjoy!